Here’s the secret about simplifying your life: Sometimes it just leads to really boring days.
It’s getting cold down here in Tassie and Carl and I have been settling into life lived at a different pace. We’ve just got back from a fortnight’s stint housesitting my brother’s farm (and looking after his adorable doggo, Wolf). While we were there I had no motivation to write. In truth I found that I had nothing much to write about.
Our days were spent setting the fire to cook breakfast on the wood stove (which also heated the washing up water), checking the solar and the fences, feeding the cows and doing our work. Design Tasmania are now stocking Carl’s jewellery, so he needed to get pieces ready for them and he’s been designing a new collection of rings to enter into the upcoming National Contemporary Jewellery Award, while I have been getting on with my client work.
We walk each day (including a gorgeous one at Liffey Falls which I highly recommend) and spend some time with my family and other than that we haven’t been do a whole lot. Nothing to write home about you might say. And as a blogger who wants to deliver great content, that can be quite confronting.
This week I came across an article I read a while back entitled, ‘What if all I want is a mediocre life’. In it the author poses the question:
“What if I am not cut out for the frantic pace of this society and cannot even begin to keep up? And see so many others with what appears to be boundless energy and stamina but know that I need tons of solitude and calm, an abundance of rest, and swaths of unscheduled time in order to be healthy. Body, spirit, soul healthy. Am I enough?
…What if I embrace my limitations and stop railing against them. Make peace with who I am and what I need and honour your right to do the same. Accept that all I really want is a small, slow, simple life. A mediocre life. A beautiful, quiet, gentle life. I think it is enough.”
This idea resonates with me a lot but it’s so contradictory for what society (read: Disney) tells us to aspire to – do more, want more, work harder. Reach for the stars. Follow your dreams. Be ambitious.
So much of how we live these days is played out in idealised form on social media – a curated view of the best bits that don’t reveal the reality that mostly you’ve just been sleeping ten hours a night because you’re still recovering from big smoke residue. Authenticity is one of my most important values, so I’ve got no interest in staging artificial experiences
I guess maybe I do want a mediocre life – sure perhaps it’s one that comes with beautiful sunsets (see above for case in point), starry skies and weekends away in our van – but mainly I want a life where I am healthy and rested and go on walks and eat good, simple wholesome food. I want to feel well and connected to nature and at peace. And sometimes that looks pretty boring. Sorry folks.
How does the idea of aiming for a ‘mediocre life’ sit with you? Tell me in the comments below. x